Practising Self-Gentleness in a Hyper-Critical World

From the high standards to long task lists and that ever present voice telling us we could’ve done more, girls, when we’re trying to build a better life and show up better, often our self-worth is tightly woven into productivity and perfection. We get it, sisters...the world demands so much; we truly need more gentleness—especially with ourselves.

Self-gentleness isn't about lowering the bar. This is important, so read it twice if you have to. Your value isn't solely on output. It's about giving yourself the same patience you so willingly offer others.

When we practise self-gentleness, we become more effective - not less. We stop wasting energy on self-criticism and instead focus on doing what matters with presence and clarity. We become better leaders, partners, friends, and parents because we've learned how to respond to our own mistakes with reflection, not shame.

Here's the quiet truth: being hard on yourself doesn't make you better. It just makes you tired and can demotivate you. That doesn't mean you shouldn't have high standards, but it does mean that you don't have to break yourself down. Embracing self-gentleness is like a breath of fresh air, a relief from the constant pressure. 

So try this: speak to yourself like someone you care about. Catch the moment you start spiralling into self-doubt and pause. Ask, Would I say this to a friend? If not, don't say it to yourself.

Gentleness isn't weakness; it's emotional maturity, and the world can use a lot more of that these days. It's how we build a relationship with ourselves based not on performance but respect.

Look in the mirror with softer eyes. The woman staring back at you is doing her best, and that counts.